Counseling Center
Counseling Center
Every family has rules they follow. Some families set rules in an orderly fashion while other wait until a crisis happens to set guidelines. Rules provide for safety, protection, family convenience, and to teach children to be responsible.
Children need rules that are clear and easy to understand. One way is for parents and children is to post the rules where everybody can see them. Children need to learn there are some rules that are non-negotiable, and must be followed and obeyed by everyone. Examples include:
- Traffic laws
- Paying for items before leaving the store
- Safety rules
Growing children also need to learn that some rules are negotiable. Negotiation teaches children how to think about where, when, why etc. The process of negotiation helps children learn to be responsible for their own behaviors. Parents are responsible for this process and children are responsible for the results.
Grant Elementary's Three School Standards
Our Bucket Filling Philosophy
We all carry around an invisible bucket. Bucket fillers are people who choose to do kind things for others and make a conscious effort to refrain from dipping out of others’ buckets. Bucket filling is easy and costs little. Here are three little reminders:
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You’ll know when your bucket is full because you smile more – genuine smiles that make others feel good.
People with full buckets are caring people who are able to separate the little deals from the big deals in life. They subscribe to the “falling down three times and getting up four times” philosophy of life. Bucket fillers are not easily discouraged and are supportive of each other.
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When we focus on what we have rather than on what we don’t have our good thoughts fill our buckets.
Don’t allow your words and attitudes to dip into buckets around you. We can never fill our buckets by dipping into someone else’s.
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Make every effort to avoid letting negative circumstances dip into your bucket’s healthy thoughts and feelings.
If you are feeling overwhelmed or discouraged – do everything you can to protect your bucket. Find someone who will help fill your bucket.
Kelso's Choices
Take a closer look at Kelso's Choices Wheel.
Your family can use it to help children solve their own problem (small one) prior to asking an adult for help.
KELSO’S CHOICES
Go to another Game
Talk it Out
Share and Take turns
Ignore it
Walk Away
Tell Them To Stop
Apologize
Make a Deal
Wait and Cool Off